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Pride.
We have ALL done things we are not proud of in retrospect (myself included). Oftentimes we find ourselves months or years
later wondering "WHY did I say that..." or "If I could just go back.. I would change this"
Stop it. Seriously.
You can't change anything that happened in the past, you can't go back. Everything does happen for a reason.
We all have to go through experiences that are sometimes hurtful, painful, and we oftentimes DO feel regret for things
that we did. The good thing is that we learn from these experiences (the whole point), but what is left behind?
Pride is the human condition. Why don't we say that "we're sorry", when we know that we are, and that we really
SHOULD be?
Pride...
Its really like a disease. Our pride keeps us from saying "You know.. I REALLY messed this one up" so INSTEAD,
we sit around for months/years lamenting over what could have been, or how we would react differently.
Its perfectly okay to realize our mistakes, and figure out how we would interpret/react to the situation if it should
arise in the future, but there is absolutely nothing that we can do to change the past.
I've spoken to thousands of people via here and other places, and the one thing that gets to me the MOST is these people
involved in what I like to call "Silent standoffs". I can tell energetically that both people want to bridge the
gap... but they don't. They constantly reassure themselves that the OTHER person should be the one to take the stand, and
then, if they do - half the time they STILL don't do anything.
What are you REALLY gaining here?
Okay, now by no means am I talking about showing up at someones door, sending them 800 emails, and calling them daily
to see if they're "still upset" but sometimes you absolutely have to be the bigger person and step forward if you
realize the other person isn't going to do it.
Back when I was younger, I used to sit back, and go with the philosophy of "Well if they're meant to be in my life,
they will be" which IS a very valid statement but also... life is TRULY too short to go with that in some cases. Some
of those people I never stepped forward to fix things with... I don't have the opportunity to anymore, and thats not because
of MY free will choice, thats because they're no longer here to hear what I have to say. While I'm sure that they know what
I "meant" now, its still a lingering thought.
Since then, I've adopted the philosophy of "forgiveness, no pride attached". My friends will tell you - I'm
like a disease myself, because I'm totally the girl that will turn up a year later after arguing with someone STILL trying
to bridge the gap. Why? Because good people are hard to come by and you should always hold onto those that mean something
to you. I don't want to have any regrets.
What I'm asking you all to do right now.. is think about this. Those that you have argued with, those that you're having
"silent standoffs" with... How would you feel if they passed on tomorrow? Would you really have said all that you
wanted to say? It IS something to think about, because all day we tell ourselves "That will never happen, I have all
the time in the world" But you don't. You don't know how fast the clock is ticking.
Every person that comes into your life is for a reason and a purpose. Don't let a silly argument or a "pride"
issue come between you and the people that you love. Its just not worth it.
Don't let your pride get in the way of you being around people you care about. Thousands of people go through every day
"not on speaking terms" with some of the most important people in their lives, constantly reliving what they WOULD
have said or done, if given the situation AGAIN... Guess what? You won't get it again, you don't HAVE yesterday, but you DO
have tomorrow. USE IT.
As I said, not advocating harrassing someone, but if you're in a situation where SOMEONE has to say something, suck up
your pride and do it... then apply the "If they're meant to be in my life, they will be", because you've done all
that you can. But don't look back 10 years later and say "Its too late to do something now, but I wish...".
This just goes back to one of my favorite quotes "Don't EVER live with regret - because at ONE TIME, it was EXACTLY
what you wanted".
Blessings be yours
Taken From Musings by Andrea
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